"Coaching is not something I ever thought about. Or maybe I thought others needed it and not me.
I did not really understand that I was holding on to some painful things of my past, deeper than just the recent past I wanted coaching on. I had a lot of questions but they seemed to be all about the wrong things or wrong thinking.
When I was being asked the hard questions about those thoughts, and where they started, I was not aware that I harbored those things of the past so deeply.
As we discussed things I was hurt about, resentful of, or just complaining about, (after several years have already passed), I was shown that my thinking was keeping me captive to those hurt feelings and holding me in the past like shackles.
I needed to deal with those thoughts by resolving to get beyond them in order to advance to the present, then into a future. The way to resolve them was what I could not do without the coaching because I was that stuck in them.
Geri's coaching never forced me to "get over it" as many people tell us. Her gentle leading into thinking about those thoughts and giving me a process or kind of formula to walk through those thoughts are what brought me into understanding of why I am programmed the way I am and think the way I do. My past experiences also created a pattern in me that had to be identified in order to be retracted and repurposed.
Now, when I feel the familiar bubble of fear or pain in the middle of an event or an emotional happening, I can process the thoughts and feelings without panicking and reacting.
If there is a response warranted, I can think before I speak much better now and I can actually decide that I don't HAVE TO respond. It's OK to say NO to some things and I no longer feel like a nuclear reactor having a meltdown to situations I am uncomfortable in.
I am so grateful to Geri and her patience with me. I believe I am so much better for having the coaching and I'm ready to have more coaching in other areas of my life to move forward to an even better future."